LezCuties is a porn website about sweet lesbians playing with each other. In this picture we have lesbians playing anal. Do you know why ?
Most lesbians really love anal sex. Do you know why ? Because girls are much more delicate during anal plays that man. In fact anal stimulation if done properly can give pleasure to almost any women but you have to do it slowly, with lube and with respect to her.
People often feel comfortable asking me questions about lesbian sex. It happens everywhere from cocktail parties to riding around in New York City taxis. As a sex positive person and porn mogul, I think it’s really important to have discussions about lesbian sex. Some lesbians are really annoyed to have to field these types of questions, but I feel that having an open mind and an open ear helps to make people outside of the gay community understand us better.
So, get ready to be schooled! I promise it’s the most fun learning you’ll have all day.
1 Question: What exactly do you two do?
Answer: The ways we have sex are as varied as straight couples. I’d argue that the sex we have is actually better, because there’s not the looming issue of a hard-on and how the hard-on will be serviced. Women are also capable of multiple orgasms, so there is little to no recovery time. We have oral sex, anal sex, penetrative sex and everything in between.
2 Question: Is one of you “the man”?
Answer: This question is always hilarious to me, because it shows how deeply ingrained strict gender roles are. Sometimes there are more masculine women or queer folks who like to be in control, but not always. It all comes down to personal preference, honestly. And not just that one of us is always “a top” and the other “a bottom”… we often switch roles, sometimes during the middle of the same sex session.
3 Question: Is it easier since you’re both women and know instinctively what the other likes?
Answer: God, I wish. No, no and no. Just like hetero people, it takes us gay ladies a while to figure out what we like. I had absolutely no idea what the hell I was doing for a good year or so after I started sleeping with women. It wasn’t until I met my first girlfriend that I really started to understand how profoundly mind-blowing sex with a woman can be.
4 Question: Do you always use a strap-on?
Answer: No. Again, it depends on the couple, but for me, it’s a sort of “special occasion” thing. I also really like to receive anal sex, so I like to have a strap-on penetrate me there, because it feels nice. Some women or queer folks like to incorporate strap-on sex more regularly. Sometimes we role-play and take on a more masculine character, and, for other people, a masculine role feels generally more comfortable for them.
5 Question: If you like women, why would you have sex with a girl who looks like a boy? Why not just date a man?
Answer: Because men are men. As a lesbian, I’m attracted to the parts and mind of a woman. Men don’t have boobs (well, they do, but they are not developed). I have a very hard time connecting on an emotional level with men. I can have friends that are dudes, but falling in love was tough, because I just don’t relate to men in the same way. We don’t “click.” Also, even with more masculine looking men or queer folks, there is still a feeling of difference from the norm, and that feels right for many of us.
6 Question: If I want to kiss a girl, does that make me a lesbian?
Answer: Not necessarily. Our culture places way too much importance on labels. Maybe you are gay, maybe you aren’t. I hope we get to the point in history where it no longer matters. Something like 80% of straight women have lesbian fantasies, so you’re in good company.
7 Question: I saw that movie “Blue is the Warmest Color”. Is that really how you girls have sex?
Answer: I’ve been getting this question a lot lately. The answer is yes and no. Lots oflesbians are pissed off about the portrayal of lesbian sex. Some say that the sex is too “porn-ish” and an example of the “male fantasy of lesbian sex”. I thought the movie was hot. For me, it was an accurate representation. I like rough sex. I like anal. I can go on and on for a long time. I didn’t understand all the hoopla about it being fake. Apparently a lot of women are having different sex than I do.
8 Question: I keep hearing about “scissoring.” What is that?
Answer: My friend, film director, Jodi Savitz wrote a great piece about it, so instead of me paraphrasing, I suggest you just go an read it here.
9 Question: What is fisting?
Answer: I wrote an entire column about fisting, so here is the link to go and read it. The column gives a lot of detail.
6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.
7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.
8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.
There’s a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. There’s so much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity.” One thing is true, you never do forget your first time. Here’s some tips to get you through your first timelesbian sexual experience.
1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, it’s good to know what excites you. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her. And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.
2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.
3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Read up on lesbian safer sex and be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.
4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it. Use your imagination here pull out one or two things from your fantasy to try out and see how it feels in real life.
5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.